Hope everyone is feeling blessed! Before I get into the heart of this Director’s Message, I would like offer our sincerest and deepest apologies for the delay in getting our tax statements out. One the greatest blessings an organization can have is growth. Redeemed has had a phenomenal time of growth and with growth comes growing pains. One of our weaknesses is and has been our ability to effectively communicate with and manage our partner relationships. In an effort to turn this weakness into a strength we have acquired a contact resource management system to assist us with our growth and become a more effective ministry as it relates to our partners. Unfortunately we did not realize the complexity of importing our partner’s info and the subsequent financial info from our bookkeeping software in order to be accurate in our reporting these statements. We are working diligently with our bookkeeping service to expedite this process. I know this has caused grief with our partners and again, we are truly sorry. We fully understand that without your support we could not do the ministry and healing we offer to the women we work with on a daily basis. With the help of our new system and new protocols and procedures for partner communication, we will make future management and reporting of gift statements a quicker and more efficient process. We so appreciate your understanding!
Now to the heart of this month’s message. I cannot begin to fully express the awesomeness of God’s timing in the work we do with survivors of domestic sex trafficking. I spoke recently at the 7th Annual Houston Human Trafficking Conference put on by Julie Waters and her wonderful team at Free the Captives. I spoke on “How to Help Adult Women Out of Trafficking,” and was able to share the four M’s of Survivor Care. Mindsets, Methods, Milestones and Measurable Success. I related how important it is to understand:
- The mindsets of the survivors and the difficulties they have resulting from their trauma.
- The mindset of care givers and how they have to understand the damage done to the human brain as a result of trauma
- The mindset of the community when they don’t see or understand the magnitude of trauma and expect quick and effective outcomes of success.
I also overviewed our program as it relates to a trauma-informed, brain-based therapeutic approach to care. I spelled out the importance of using milestones to assist the women to plan out their journey to healing and living a whole and productive life based on their individual needs. And finally I hammered home the somewhat unrealistic expectations that can be placed on women and organizations to measure success as it relates to time, energy or monetary resources.
All this seems like a nice and neat package to communicate in conferences as people attempt to understand and learn how address this complex issue affecting so many people. And then you have an experience with a woman that can turn this whole neat little package on its ear.
We had a woman spend a week with us in our safe house and quickly determined that we were not the right fit for her healing journey. Why? You can have a great program, great and caring people, resources available to meet the physical, emotional, relational and spiritual need, but it not work out.
Again, why? Simply, she was not ready for change.
The level of trauma and her inability to feel emotionally safe and stabilize prevents her from even starting her healing journey. You see her potential and know you can give her the opportunity, but that’s not enough. She has to be ready and quickly slips from a contemplative state to a pre-contemplative, denial state which causes her to be emotionally and relationally combative. Frustrating, yes. Heartbreaking, yes! Even when you understand everything and know you have enough love and care to help her, it’s still not sufficient and it guts you. To see someone reject the opportunity to be loved and healed will cause you to weep bitterly. Ultimately everything about her healing and success is with God, not me, not our organization or our program. God is sovereign and her healing is in his hands. But it still hurts.
Thank you for being on this journey with us as work to heal the exploited through Christ’s love.